
Today, I am writing
about a topic that might make some uncomfortable, but I think it important to
consider: pornography. If you do not want to read this, feel free
to stop now. If you choose to continue
reading, I believe I have something
important for some people to hear. As some of you know that might be reading
this, I am not only an ordained pastor
but also a licensed clinical mental health counselor in NC and a licensed
professional counselor in SC. While I
am not serving as pastor at a church at this time, I continue to serve via virtual
counseling. In the last few
years, I have seen a number of persons
who were struggling with an addiction to pornography. There are several things these persons have
in common. First, they are all male
ranging in age from their early 20’s to their late 60’s. Secondly,
they all confess to be Christians. Most of these men are heavily involved in
their church. I certainly did not seek out to counsel
persons about pornography, but God is giving me that opportunity.
I remember many years
ago going to a home to visit a home. As I knocked on the door, I could hear some noise inside. Despite the knocks, no one came. At a later time, I saw the occupant of that home. The man acknowledged that he knew that I
stopped by, but he did not answer the door because he was looking at a movie
laced with pornography on his television.
I share that anecdote to illustrate that pornography is easily
accessible in the world we live in today.
Some of you perhaps remember a time when pornography was something that
one encountered at a x-rated movie theatre or via a magazine that came to your
home in a manila envelope or you skimmed at a local store. Now, pornography can be encountered on
social media, web sites, and the like with ease on a smart phone or other
devices. Of course, there are many things on television via
movies, ads, and television shows that certainly have sexual content.
There are many people
that think that pornography is harmless since it is something that can be
easily done in the privacy or comfort of their own home. One
of my clients once thought that, but now sees things differently as he seeks to
break free from porn. The reason why I
am writing this blog post on what some perhaps find an uncomfortable topic is
this: porn can and does hurt others. Pornography can and does harm
relationships. I have encountered
clients that stated that their marriage or relationship was troubled since
their wife or girlfriend found out they were looking at pornography. I have worked with clients whose marriage
ended in divorce principally because of their pornography addiction. I also have worked with clients that lost
their jobs because their employer discovered them viewing pornography in their
workplace.
If pornography is a part
of your life, I earnestly encourage you
to get help and to quit fooling yourself that it is harming no one. Please get help. I do not think that God wants pornography
to be a part of your life. Perhaps you
know someone important in your life who is struggling with pornography. Feel free to reach out to me and I will be
happy to offer a few things that might help you. Thanks for reading. God bless.-
Pastor Randy Wall
PRAYER
-- O God, I pray for all those who are struggling today
with addictions including those who struggle with pornography. Grant them a willingness to find strength
and a new direction in you; through
Christ our Lord. Amen.